Posted on May 1, 2009
Filed Under Advanced Kissing
It usually takes a while before you get really comfortable with making out and kissing. The good news is that it’s lots of fun practicing! Seriously though, the best way to become a better kisser is to practice, practice, practice. It helps if you are in a relationship with someone so you can make out more often. Even then, sometimes you feel like you’re in a rut, just going through the motions. If this ever happens to you, that means it’s time to shake things up a little and try something new.
Gently bite your kissing partner’s lip. It’s not even really a bite, just take their lip in your teeth and apply just enough pressure so that you can sort of stretch their lip out a little tiny bit. Tug on it a little, then let it go. This is a pretty intimate thing to do and it can come off one of two ways – it can signal that your partner is very comfortable with you for allowing you to do this or it can send signals that you want to be a little bit rough. Either one is fine, but you should be prepared to back off if your partner reacts negatively.
Take a break from kissing on the mouth and kiss your partner’s neck (or shoulders, the inside of the elbow, back, etc.) A person’s skin can be very sensitive and the sensation of wet lips and/or tongue on certain areas can be very arousing. It’s most natural to move from kissing the lips to the neck. Gently lick one spot, kiss it, run your tongue over it. Then gently suck on it – but not too hard and not for too long. This is how you give someone a hickey and if your partner isn’t ready for that you don’t want to leave a mark. If you really want to spice things up, deliver some gentle kisses to the back of the neck and shoulders. For a more intimate session, move even further down the body.
The ears and earlobes can be especially sensitive to warm breath and a wet tongue. Slowly exhale warm air into your lover’s ear. Then slowly move your wet tongue over the ear. Don’t stick your tongue into the ear – that’s gross! Suck on the earlobe and maybe even whisper some words of love into their ear.
As you can see, there are a lot of things you can do while you make out. There’s no need for things to ever get boring and you shouldn’t have to get stuck in a specific routine. Feel free to experiment with different techniques and talk with your loved one about what they liked or didn’t like. Open communication is vital to a healthy relationship. Remember the cardinal rules of making out – go slow, be gentle and HAVE FUN!