The Basics Of How To Make Out
Posted on April 20, 2009
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Chances are, if you are at this site then you haven’t had much luck with the opposite sex. You are unsure of how to act, what to do and when to do it. Well, we are here to help! Before we get into anything too fancy we need to cover the basics, so this post will assume that you know nothing and go from there. This is an awkward subject for some people to discuss, but at this site, I will always try to describe things in a clinical way, while using some slang to try to get my point across. This is a “no judgment zone” here, so feel free to ask anything in the comments section. Remember, on this site you are anonymous!
The term “making out” is generally used to mean the act of kissing (usually for long periods of time and with some intensity). We’re not talking about light kisses on the cheek here, we mean full-on tongue kissing! Often hugging and some form of caressing or rubbing is added into the mix too.
Making out can be very satisfying all by itself, but it is often just the starting point for couples. The act of making out and fondling each other tends to intensify over time and as the sexual excitement builds up, sexual intercourse often occurs after a good make out session.
So, how exactly do you make out? Well, it usually begins with a light kiss, the kind where your lips are puckered up and you don’t make contact for very long. After a series of these (maybe about 3 or 4), you progress to an open mouth kiss. You might not want to use your tongue right away thought, you should ease into it slowly. A good make out session can’t feel rushed and you shouldn’t be in any big hurry. Take your time and ease into it slowly. It’s often hard to remember this because you are so excited and nervous, but nothing will kill the mood faster than shoving your tongue into your partners mouth before he or she is ready!
After 2 or 3 open mouthed kisses, lightly and gently flick your tongue into their mouth. You’re doing this partly to test the waters to see how your partner reacts. If they respond to your tongue in a positive way (by using their tongue too) then they have given you the green light to continue. If they back off and don’t engage your tongue, you may want to slow down and maybe even stop kissing and ask them if they are OK with what’s going on.
If your partner has met your tongue with his or hers, then you are good to go! Just keep kissing! Move your head from side to side (slowly!) and most of all, have fun!
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Im a 15 year old guy and a lot of girls think im hot and like my personality but i dont have: a. the confidence to make the move b. im scared that ill do terrible and she wont enjoy it. Lastly, im not sure if i should wait until i find someone that i feel totally comfortable with and then MAYBE i would feel comfortable hooking up or if i should just hook up with this girl tomorrow who ive heard likes me and we’ve hanged out before..everyday for the last 2.5 years i think about this and i would forever be grateful if you can help me.
I say go for it! Since you’re only 15 (and I assume the girls are about the same age), the girls probably don’t have much experience either. Feel free to talk to the girl about how your are feeling. A lot of girls like to share their feelings and if you do the same, they will love you for it.
Don’t ambush her with a quick kiss, but wait for a quiet moment when you are close to each other and feeling a connection. Then slowly move your mouth toward hers and give her a light peck on the lips. This will get the ball rolling and give her a chance to say “no” if she wants. If she’s into you, she won’t back away and you can continue on to more passionate kissing.
I wouldn’t wait for the “perfect” girl because you need some practice with other girls to build up your confidence. Then when you get an opportunity with a girl that you really feel a connection with you will be ready to act.
And remember, just because a girl likes making out with you doesn’t mean that she wants to go any further than that. Respect her boundaries at all times!
Good luck and let us know how it goes.
Hey I just turned 14 and I got a new girlfriend but I don’t know the movement how to make out. That’s all I need to know.
i am a 16 year old girl. i have a boyfriend that i have been going out with for awhile but i have never kissed. him or any one eles. i want to but i really dont know how. i mean it seems easy but well….i dont really know what to do with my toung? can any one help please
I’m 13 (almost 14) and my boyfriend is 15. we’ve been dating for a month and a couple weeks. whenever we’re together we’re always affectionate— he loves holding hands, and we kiss a lot too, but we’ve never made out. I’VE never made out, and i know for a fact that he has & that kind of intimidates me. i feel like im going to do something stupid or clumsy & end up screwing the pooch. we’ve talked about making out and we’re both totally for it, but still we never have.
i read these things and they give me the idea that it’ll be alright, but still when it comes down to it im a nervous & usually break off the kiss before it gets to intimate.
Help for what i should do?
I want to make out so so bad but i just dont know what to do with my toungue…
I’ve made out with alot of girls but i don’t know if I’m good at it or not. I’m 12 and the girls I make out with are 15 so they have more experience then me
im turning 12 an my boyfriend we kissed quite few times and even tho im 12 i think its time i learn to make out just in case of him trying to and i wouldnt no what to do…..
please help….
Ok so my boyfriends 15 and I m 12. We have been dating for 3 weeks (almost 4) and we both want to make out with each other but the only place we can is outside of my church at youth group. But my friends won’t leave us alone so wat do we tell them so they will leave us alone?!? Plz help!
Go for a walk down the road, thats what i do and it always works out fine, and if that dosent work then maybe go on a date:)
Jope this works for you
My Boyfriend wants to Makeout with me Tonight, But I don’t know how!! & I’m really Nerves! Someone Help me Quick!!!!!!
I’m 15 and I have been with my first boyfriend for about a month and a bit. We have kissed, but not “made-out”, not that I don’t enjoy not making-out with him…cuz trust me kissing is amazing!! I have no clue on how to make-out or anything like that, I’m just hoping that when I do I won’t suck too much at it. But my real problem is I have not a clue if he does want to make-out or not.What should I be looking out for? Are there signs that i need to look for? Please help meee if u can
P.s if u can try and make a time to go out to a movie or a walk around the block or meet up after school at the local hang out place! (this is what I do and it works great!!) maybe u could try sneaking off and finding a quiet place under a tree to get some privet time with eachother!! XD
Nerves r normal…I get them all the time usually for no reason!! Just try and put these nerves behind you and just enjoy the moment or moments…lucky
I hope that I could help anyone who can benefit from my little and close to none experience…GOOD LUCK!!! XD
Great tips and site you have here! Thanks for your help!
i am only 13 (almost 14) and my gf has already made out with somebody and i never have, so i dont want to embarrass myself by trying and mess up. so what do i do in the open mouth kiss?