The French Kiss Is The Key To Making Out
Posted on April 26, 2009
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So you want to learn how to make out, but have no idea what to do once you’re with that special person, right? Well, when most people think about “making out”, they think of the french kiss. It’s a staple of make out sessions everywhere and is synonymous with the term make out. It’s also referred to as soul kiss, tongue kiss, sucking face, swapping spit, and many other various slang terms.
You can see people french kissing on TV and in movies all the time, but until you do it yourself it’s hard to understand exactly what you need to do or how to do it well.
You need practice, but the only way to practice is by doing it! Unless you have a really good friend that’s willing to practice with you and it won’t ruin your relationship, you’re just going to have to read and prepare as best as you can for when the moment arrives that you actually get to kiss someone for real.
I’ve done some research online and can’t find exactly why it’s called “French kiss” in the first place. But that just makes it more mysterious and interesting! Ok, let’s get started.
As with any type of kissing, you need to make sure your partner is OK with what you’re doing or about to do. Wait until you’re really comfortable with each other and in a quiet, intimate moment before you attempt this kiss. And remember the rule that was discussed in previous posts, go slow! Don’t just jam your tongue into their mouth and wiggle it around like crazy. There may not be any one right way of doing it, but that is definitely the wrong way to do it!
You should probably wet your lips a little, but make sure they’re not too wet and slobbery. Press your lips against your partner’s and start with some light, regular kisses. When you feel like it’s the right time, open your lips a little while you continue to kiss normally. This will be a signal to your partner that you want to move on to more advanced kisses. If they respond and open their lips too, then you have been cleared for takeoff!
Gently extend your tongue out of your mouth (just a little bit at first!) and lick their lips a little. Extend it further into their mouth and touch their tongue with it. Curl it around theirs, caress their tongue with yours, etc. Always remember to retract your tongue back into your mouth in regular intervals and take a breath and swallow. You don’t want to suffocate or drown your partner!
Hopefully your partner will be doing these same thing back to you, so you just need to find a rhythm and keep doing it. Usually one person takes the lead, just like in dancing. A lot of times it the male in the relationship, but not always. Combine these techniques along with the ones mentioned previously and you will be an expert french kisser in no time!
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soo my bf wants to makeout with me but i have no clue what to do even though u explained it i just dot no wat to do wen u stck ur tongue in theres what to do with ur lips at the same time IM SOO CONFUSED!!! plzz help me im starting to think its hopeless for me
Well you know when me and my boyfriend frenched i first lip-lock kissed him then we started to get to the higher level and that was moving around and twisting your head side to side…guys find it really sexy when you french kiss first…it turns them on and make them want more!… So next time we kissed i bit his lip (not too hard] – You dont want to back him away- if your thinking of that make sure its the bottom lip because if you bit the top it might feel a little awkward trust me…. But the french kiss may look gross and hard but to be honest once you start its gonna feel really good!… Heres a special key…*Once your tongue is in your partners mouth try to spell out a secret word with your tongue…Ex. “Love”…”Sweet”…”Baby”. Anything you’d like…Hope this helped for anyone out there…Good Luck!..=))
i am in 7th grade and im at the point where everyone has made out… but me. i have looked on soo many different websites about how to do it… nothing. my bf is in 8th grade. but 2 years older than me. he says he wants to make out with me. and he thinks i have before.. what do i do?? this is my last hope!!
i still dont know how to make out and me and my gf really want to make out but idk how to make out and i dont get wat to do when my tongue is in her mouth. help me plz
Hi there. Check out this: page http://hubpages.com/hub/How-To-Make-Out. It might help you out.
Hi. Check out the page that I put together here: http://hubpages.com/hub/How-To-Make-Out. There’s a video there that might be useful.
Ok so ya im havin the same problem idk wat to do with my tounge me and my bf have almost been their but i pulled away cus i didn kniw wat to do i fell bad cus im 14 i should know but i dont and my bfs madeout befor and thinks i have to i tell him alot i dont kniw wat to do he says ill teach u but i dont wana mess up plus today is our month aversary i feel bad please help me
I’m 14 too and just learned how to makeout… When your tounge is in his mouth just move it around but not too fast
Dont fret about making out. And dont lie to your partner. Often, your partner is your best guide. That’s the way it was for me. My bf is a freshman and I’m in 8th grade. He’d made out before and he knew I hadn’t. We made out and I basically let him guide me through it and it was perfect.
This really helped! me and my gf have gone out for a few months and neither of us have made out. but right after i read this the next night we made out, really helped
Seriously, don’t freak out about making out. It’s nbd. Here’s a tip: guys LOVE when you make the first move. I did that with my bf and he told me it was extremely sexy… Hey, it might be awkward, but if it works, it works
well i think im gona makeout with someone and im so scared never in my life i have done it or even had a french kiss…. help meeee…..
Well I’m 14 and I’ve never made out with anyone and my bf is also 14 and hasn’t made out before or even kissed anyone. I want to but he won’t I’m getting tired of playing games and I want him to just make out with me already!!!!!!
Okay everyone. So me and my bf French kissed for the first time yesterday (first kiss altogether actually) and I had a lot of friends ask for details. It may sound gross, but it does help. The most important thing is this-have fun. I’m not very good at it yet, but listen to you guy. Second, we saw a movie. The movie we picked was one that’s a little older, so there were a total of 5(!) other ppl. I recommend the backr ow if you want to make out. I told my boyfriend (we.re freshman) that I’d never kissed a guy before, so yeah it was a little awkward, but I went over to his house and he kept kissing me sooooooo yeah. Another tip-sweet little gestures. If they.re by themselves they’re adorable, or a great excuse to kiss them. If you’re already kissing, and say the guy kisses the girls neck (ex) then it can make it Fun. Good luck
Im in 7th grade, and so is my bf. Hes my first bf and I’ve never made out before – he has. And after reading all these pages bout how-to-makeout, i still dont know what to do!
Does it come naturally the first time? What do I do with my tongue?
I really need answers, I don’t want my first love to get bored and lose interest in me, because I can’t make out.
Help me! Please!
Im 15 and I have a Friend But we were bf and gf for a moment and wen we were he askd me why we havent kissed and i was speech less but now i wana try making out but im confused bout everything:’( i havent kissed anyone or made out b4 please HELP ME IM DESPRITE
my advice to all of you who are worried about french kissing for the first time with somebody who is an experianced kisser is to just go with the flow. start with norm kisses then jus work ur way into it. its alittle scary at first but then u rele enjoy it
I’m a 7th grader and all my friends have already done this and acted like it was nothing and super easy. Is that true? And I don’t wanna make a fool out of myself and my bf that I just had broke up with me because I told him I had never made out before. Now I’m single but I’m still wanting to know for the future.
Hey so making out is soo easy, you dont have to know exactly how to do it, everyone that doesnt know what to do, stop looking at tips on the internet, it will jsut confuse you. If u want to be good at it, start by trying out first yourself. Hopefully you’ll love it
I’m in 7th grade and i’ve made out a few times don’t worry it comes very naturaully espacaily when your making out with some1′s who has made out b4
i kissed a girl before and it was good it was the best expirence was good for me
i kissed it was so good and i had the best time of my life
im a guy and me and my gf are going to make out this weekend but im really nervous and i dont think she’ll like me anymore if im a bad kisser please someone help me out
well im going into seventh grade at a school with 83 people in it and im the only person in my grade that has kissed and that was actually with a girl that isnt from the school but it wouldnt have happened without the help of this website
Well, me and my bf made out a couple of times before, but haven’t in a while. We were going to attempt a french kiss next time we saw each other. I need advice! When do I know I should stop myself? How do I move my toung, and how do I know when he wants to stop? Help!
I still dont kno wat 2 do. Im 13 turning 14 in a few weeks and i need more tips on how to french kiss my bf becoz i hav neva done it b4. Every time he starts 2 put his toung in my mouth i back away, also he starts grabbing my bum. Wat do i do? and Can u plz give me some tips on how 2 french kiss a really sexy and fun way?
Plz give me some more advise
To everyone who needs thinks they need help with this.
I’m 13 going on to 14 now, me and my GF have been making out for awhile, the cool thing is, we french kissed as both our first kisses, with eachother. We makeout with eachother all of the time.
How to know when a guy wants to (through body language): the most obvious way, is that when you’re a kissing with a normal kiss, his lips will part a little. He may just want to jam his tongue into your mouth, but if he’s kind enough to wait, and you want to go for it, part your lips, too. If he continues to wait, lick his lips with your tongue a little. Not only is that fun, it gives a clear message of your intentions, and you can procede from there.
For girls: they would be generally the same.
Technique for when your tongue is in his/her mouth: make sure you aren’t just a dead weight in their mouths, at the least, move your tongue around a little. Manuever your tongue so that they can easily access your mouth, also. You don’t want to be covered in spit while you kiss, so swallow before you begin, but not too dry, there has to be at least some of that “spit swapping”. if you feel like there’s a lot in your mouth, don’t worry about who’s spit it is, just swallow it, it won’t hurt you. It’s worse getting your lips covered in drool, and having little pools at the bottom of your mouth. Don’t move your tongue too erratically, either. Keep it soft and gentle.
I learned through practice.
If you are comfortable with that, try some techniques: curling around and caressing your partner’s tongue, spelling words out (as mentioned in a previous reply), I also found that doing a sort-of “upward lick” from under their tongue to the roof of their mouth can be enjoyable, also as you exit the kiss biting the bottom lip gently can be very sexy (mostly girls). There are also other techniques as to where you massage the other’s tongue, but I’m not revealing how I do it
And that’s the biggest advice I can give you: practice. You may go in there thinking you know what you’re doing, but you’ll be surprised at how much you really don’t know.
Everybody that is scared i am going to tell yu this, i was really scared my first time too. RELAX!! trust me, my first time i madeout with my bf i didnt know what to do i did what he did and it turned out good. just trust yur self it will be okay! (:
hey so i never made out and so i have braces do i still make out or is that gross and i should wait till their off
hey guys just fyi make sureyou are alone or at least in a semi discree place becuase it gets really akward making out with people watching you especially if they comment on it and if you try to talk do it inbetween not during…also awkard…if youve got braces who cares if your partner rlly likes u they wont care plus you cant rlly tell anyway u dont make out with ur teeth just ur tounge and most importantly dont eat any really aparently flavored foods before hand its not the best really unsexy unless u like that which by all means go ahead
EVERYONE. CALM DOWN. Okay, about how to move your tongue.. well.. honestly. There is no right way to move your tongue. It’s all very random. If its your first time, don’t ram your tongue down your partners throat. Just go easy. If he has made out before, chances are he will do most of thw work. Just keep your mouth open and once in a while just close your lips again , (like the beginning of a regular kiss) and you just do it over again. Just watch some How To videos. It isn’t hard , just don’t pour spit into the other persons mouth, and you will be all good. A small bite at the end is attractive , too. Hope this helped! (:
so i’ve never made out before, and i always talk about to this one guy hes in eighth and everyone thinks hes hot but he only likes me and always says we should hang and i would say yea then he would say wanna make out and i would just pause and think idk how to make out but friends had told me to “just go with it”.
Ok, first of all, everyone just chill out. A botched french kiss is NOT THE END OF THE WORLD, contrary to popular belief. I’m a freshman and I only frenched kiss for the first time a week ago, so if you’re in seventh grade and are complaining that you’re the only one in school who hasn’t made out, odds are, MOST PEOPLE ARE LYING. Call me old fashioned, but in seventh grade I barely held my boyfriend’s hand, let alone sucked face. If everyone is acting like hot stuff, chances are that half of them are making that up for attention. So relax, and don’t rush it.
Also, screwing up a little at kissing isn’t going to kill you. In fact, if you giggle a little following your slip-up, a lot of guys actually find that cute and endearing. Also, if your partner has frenched before, he’s probably going to take the lead. Pay attention to what he does, and, if he gives you a chance to take over, try some of the things he did to you.
The worst thing you can do is just flop your tongue around like a dying fish, or, even more terrible, just let it lay there. It’s not very attractive when you move your tongue around eratically. Try finding a rhythm when you move your tongue around your partner’s mouth. Small circles around their mouth or gently flicking your tongue against their cheeks can be super sexy, and it drives guys crazy. Also, if you’re frenching, remember to use your lips as well as your tongue. It’s awkward when you’re swapping spit, but your lips are just hanging there. It’s a major turnoff. By the way, braces won’t make or break a kiss. You don’t kiss with your teeth, or at least you shouldn’t be.
Now, entering and breaking the kiss is just as important as the kiss itself. Start out with a casual peck or soft kiss if that is usual for you and your boyfriend/girlfriend. You can also just start out frenching right away by going in for a kiss but running your tongue across his bottom lip instead of prolonging a closed-mouth kiss. If you do start with a closed mouth, let the kiss heat up on its own or, if needed, steer it in the right direction by tilting your head to deepen the kiss. Play with your partner’s hair by running your fingers through it, and keep your hand at their neck as means to pull them closer to you. But you should be under no pressure to start quickly. Take time to make sure you are comfortable. Just chill out. Take it slow to avoid awkward bumping, nudging, or, God forbid, teeth clacking. To break the kiss, slowly pull out your tongue and eventually break lip contact. If you want, you can drag your teeth across their bottom lip or bite their bottom lip and tug GENTLY, it’s super duper sexy.
A few final tips:
You don’t have to shove your tongue down your significant other’s throat. It’s actually kind of a turnoff, it’s sort of gross and uncomfortable. Also, keep the muscles in your tongue activated, your tongue should be narrow and long (not fat and floppy), this is better for movement. AND FOR GOD’S SAKE, BRUSH YOUR TEETH AND USE BREATH MINTS. BAD BREATH IS NOT SEXY. You should also make sure you’re comfortable before starting. No sense making out if you’re awkwardly seated or on an unstable surface.
Just follow these tips along with the brilliant ones in the article and comment sections. Enjoy your frenching!
So I’ve only made out with a guy once and we had a lot of tongue action but I guess my teeth are retarded and they kept getting in the way. What should I do with my teeth?
okay, so let me break this down. Two days ago I dumped a guy for his kissing(not all of it was the kissing, but a majority of it was). Anyway, on our second date he kissed me for the first time, and right off the bat it sucked. He started off with his mouth completely open(bad mistake) and it just ruined the whole experience. He also acted like a vacuum. As in the whole time he was trying to like devour my face by like sucking all of it in. He was also very sloppy and was chewing gum(major turn off….GET A BREATH MINT!!!) the whole time. All in all it was horrible, and now he doesn’t have a girlfriend….GUYS KNOW WHAT YOU’RE DOING!!!